At the end of last week I think I finally resolved the last issue from the medical bills associated with losing S & G - that's approximately 8 months after leaving the hospital. I have found the medical billing process to be inherently cruel, despite some very kind individuals functioning within it.I believe it is inhumane to bill each aspect of a hospital separately, ranging from different doctors, the actual hospital stay, in-house anesthesia, sub-contracted anesthesia, pills vs. iv medications, etc. These bills all come at different times with different levels of information contained in them. It seems reasonable to me to expect that the hospital (or an agency contracted by the hospital) gather this information and present it to patients IN ONE DOCUMENT AT THE SAME TIME. This would alleviate the necessity of explaining to multiple parties that we did not receive redundant services, that I had a delayed delivery of my second twin and that no, contrary to what you might think, G did not survive. It would also be extremely helpful if notes were actually taken so that when I respond to the first bill in Gs name and request that it be changed to my name I do not receive both a delinquent notice AND a notice informing me that is past time when I could enroll him on my health insurance plan and will now be required to pay out of pocket. There were so many problems with our bills that I can't even try to remember them all but I will add that the last one was a bill for anesthesia that was sent to collections without notifying me and when I finally got someone on the phone she first required that I pay the bill immediately with my credit card to get it removed from my credit report and then days later verified that they had actually cashed the check (although she insists she sent us multiple notifications and they tried to call us - which did NOT happen). So many people have hospital bills as a part of losing a loved one, could there not be support in navigating the billing process during times of overwhelming grief?