tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.comments2023-05-03T01:27:54.666-07:00Wild and Precious Lifejunebughttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10925785225181424740noreply@blogger.comBlogger109125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-31922819404759086522017-02-22T06:43:26.284-08:002017-02-22T06:43:26.284-08:00My heart breaks for you. I feel like all of it is ...My heart breaks for you. I feel like all of it is beyond comprehension. I am again so sorry for this loss, brought newly raw by the anniversary. Thinking of you as you continue wading through the nevers, the questions that really don't have a good answer. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-29819617105089072522017-01-17T03:46:51.862-08:002017-01-17T03:46:51.862-08:00I am sorry. The grief never goes away (and I don&...I am sorry. The grief never goes away (and I don't think we want it to) but I hope the impact on you softens.Persnicketyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18436903120495453879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-77202261539573751762016-07-29T19:55:57.828-07:002016-07-29T19:55:57.828-07:00The house will be gone, but the memory of all that...The house will be gone, but the memory of all that it held is still there.Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10012800256411878445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-79914331010262374792016-07-29T19:53:30.377-07:002016-07-29T19:53:30.377-07:00Sending lots of love to you... I think sometimes c...Sending lots of love to you... I think sometimes circumstances nudge us in a direction to start new and necessary emotional chapters. I agree with the others. I know it's not at all what you've been through... but my dad was around at my old apartment and he's been around here in our new house. I (half)joke that since he's been dead he's visited twice as often as when he was alive. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00241440303548441344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-60604577165628743832016-07-29T18:32:51.209-07:002016-07-29T18:32:51.209-07:00I understand this; we moved from our old house las...I understand this; we moved from our old house last month, and it was hard to know that we were leaving behind the places that made them real. Yes, we carry them with us, but there will also be a piece of memory--the visceral piece, perhaps--that we leave behind. Sending you lots of love as you move through this transition time.Justine Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-14924536400558679592016-07-27T17:04:16.917-07:002016-07-27T17:04:16.917-07:00I don't really know what to say, other than to...I don't really know what to say, other than to echo Jess and Mel's comments that your babies will always be with you, no matter where you are. That love will never go.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-29110505863446909322016-07-26T14:46:42.373-07:002016-07-26T14:46:42.373-07:00What a hard goodbye, even if you're leaving fo...What a hard goodbye, even if you're leaving for a really good reason. But you are carrying so much of that connection with you; from memories to the very cells that moved between their bodies and yours.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-32750300828653498162016-07-25T14:14:48.743-07:002016-07-25T14:14:48.743-07:00Time marches on and things all around you change, ...Time marches on and things all around you change, but that grief will always be there, and it is like a sharing between you and your missing babies. It is hard to move forward and feel like you're leaving something important behind in your home and the memories (though painful) that tie you to your babies there, but you write so beautifully about your grieving experience and your babies will always be a part of who you are, even as the scenery changes. I'm thinking of you and all these thoughts and the transitions and changes that you face. Congratulations on the move, I hope you get that time with C!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-58211009106854242912016-04-28T19:59:12.829-07:002016-04-28T19:59:12.829-07:00Nothing further to add. Just wishing you the best....Nothing further to add. Just wishing you the best.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-3724979301648723632016-04-28T09:56:50.443-07:002016-04-28T09:56:50.443-07:00Okay... so I had this great original idea and then...Okay... so I had this great original idea and then saw Mel & Jess say it before me... Lori Holden (aka lori lavender luz) is a lovely person & open adoption is what she knows best. She's been through it herself & written a great book to help others... I worked for the Health Department when a client came in with her child at the same time her "first family" came in with their adoptive mother. It's amazing how much more accepting kids can be than adults when things are handled properly.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00241440303548441344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-50687606104698307672016-04-25T19:21:13.987-07:002016-04-25T19:21:13.987-07:00I agree with Mel, I'm sure Lori Lavender Luz h...I agree with Mel, I'm sure Lori Lavender Luz has some wise words on this. I don't have any yet, but know that some of the words you're given to say don't quite work when there are children at home and your child was placed. That's tough to explain for sure. I hope you get the answers you seek and things unfold in your semi-open relationship in a way that works for Little C. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-92162129269142611162016-04-25T18:25:23.476-07:002016-04-25T18:25:23.476-07:00I don't have this situation, but do you read L...I don't have this situation, but do you read Lavender Luz (http://lavenderluz.com/)? She always finds the right words in difficult situations.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-65027984700474454902016-04-23T08:41:55.214-07:002016-04-23T08:41:55.214-07:00I love the way you describe this, I can so see it ...I love the way you describe this, I can so see it in my mind. And it makes me smile and my heart feels all warm and fuzzy... Love these updates with little C!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-18392227516528757622016-04-22T18:50:15.802-07:002016-04-22T18:50:15.802-07:00Awwww... Yeah, that hand-holding things sounds jus...Awwww... Yeah, that hand-holding things sounds just "awful".... Isn't it terrible that my kids hate that they're small because other kids make fun of them and older people sometimes mistake them for being a lot younger than they are and talk to them like they're babies... but I secretly love that they're small so I can still cuddle them like I used to and look at them in their pajamas after a bath and still think how adorable they are. My son still wants me to pick him up but he's almost half my body weight so I have to draw the line somewhere.... Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00241440303548441344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-8733768132372147282016-04-22T08:59:21.006-07:002016-04-22T08:59:21.006-07:00A post full of wonder and happiness. I'm very ...A post full of wonder and happiness. I'm very happy for you ... and little C.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-83010842531671662552016-04-20T10:46:51.233-07:002016-04-20T10:46:51.233-07:00I loved that time. Mine still cuddle, but it'...I loved that time. Mine still cuddle, but it's not like it was when they would sleep on me. Enjoy every second.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-87577792977759694702016-04-08T20:54:29.171-07:002016-04-08T20:54:29.171-07:00Ah, I remember that feeling. So wonderful! Congra...Ah, I remember that feeling. So wonderful! Congratulations and enjoy these precious times. Okay, I had to look up a nose frida to see what it was. Doesn't it feel surreal?Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10012800256411878445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-18219611611621528852016-04-05T09:54:30.767-07:002016-04-05T09:54:30.767-07:00Huge changes; big emotional changes. I love this ...Huge changes; big emotional changes. I love this post, every jumbled moment of it.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-38024627406352773802016-04-04T14:10:10.676-07:002016-04-04T14:10:10.676-07:00Oh, how I love this post. Tears in my eyes, just s...Oh, how I love this post. Tears in my eyes, just so much joy and so much feeling of anticipation and empathy for that joy/grief dichotomy. Your son's FM sounds amazing, and the experience in the hospital sounds so powerful. Openness seems to be such an ever-evolving thing, I hope that it works out the way that all of you want it to over time. And the nose frida! I have that (unused as of yet of course) but have come up against a lot of pushback from people who think it's ridiculous. So glad to know it's useful and I am vindicated. :) Thanks for the nursery shout-out... at times it feels a little sad that it's getting the most use by our cat who feels the changing pad is just for him, but it holds so much hope, and we were spared it being slated for someone else before. I am reveling in your love, exhaustion, and wonder. So very glad to hear an update! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-62792205307586600812016-02-24T09:41:50.384-08:002016-02-24T09:41:50.384-08:00Whoa. Chills down both arms. Sending so many goo...Whoa. Chills down both arms. Sending so many good thoughts for everyone in the equation.Lollipop Goldsteinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-58356311173568141502016-02-22T18:22:14.459-08:002016-02-22T18:22:14.459-08:00Oh, oh, OH! That is amazing... I am going to hold ...Oh, oh, OH! That is amazing... I am going to hold on to hope that this is the moment for you, that you step through that torrent of water and get to that magical space behind the waterfall. Amazing how in this process everything can move so quickly... I hope so much for you in this exciting and terrifying time! Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-68748712567950768102016-01-13T21:23:15.927-08:002016-01-13T21:23:15.927-08:00There are a lot of things in this world that don&#...There are a lot of things in this world that don't make sense to me. So it doesn't mean that much to me whether there's a reason or not. Shit happens and you just have to get through it with dignity, courage and compassion.Deathstarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10012800256411878445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-21112851113260224602016-01-13T17:17:53.768-08:002016-01-13T17:17:53.768-08:00I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's pare...I'm so sorry to hear of your friend's parent's diagnosis. You are a good friend to be there for them, to rearrange your plans. I don't believe that things happen for a reason, either, and positive thinking is nice but doesn't actually change outcomes. Sometimes your actions are just intentional, and if things come together then they come together. It is perfectly understandable to feel so sad in the midst of this terrible news, even if it's not your parent. Empathy can be so powerful. Thinking of you, and of your friend.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-39324916388871770292016-01-13T01:00:45.541-08:002016-01-13T01:00:45.541-08:00Thinking of you, too. Being there for others often...Thinking of you, too. Being there for others often reminds us of our own pain. Especially if you're hearing phrases that remind you of those emotions that are the hardest to remember. Just because it's harder for the family doesn't mean that your feelings are not important.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9054418447476897371.post-443631717785845662016-01-12T13:30:40.141-08:002016-01-12T13:30:40.141-08:00I saw an article some time in the past month about...I saw an article some time in the past month about the concept of, "everything happens for a reason" and it really resonated with me (yes, the author felt it was one of the worst things to ever say). If my brain relents, and allows me to find it again, I'll come back with the link.<br /><br />I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's family. I'll be keeping them in my thoughts.internetg33khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12672869878789920528noreply@blogger.com